Commencement "Address"

This is the time of year when the nation’s graduates line up for accolades (and their diplomas). It is, for them, a beginning—a commencement of a new phase in their life. 

But ahead of that, most are given the “opportunity” to hear some words of wisdom and inspiration from an individual that they have likely never heard of (though their parents may have). In that spirit, I’d like to offer the graduates of 2023 some lessons I’ve picked up along the way:

Your first job can be like your first love—it will either bring a smile for years to come—or it can break your heart. And sometimes both. 

Just because you’re young(er), people are going to assume you know things you don’t—and assume you don’t know things you do.

Everything you’ve heard about your elders isn’t true. But some of it is.

There actually ARE stupid questions.

If your current boss doesn’t want to hear the truth, it may be time to look for a new one.

There can be a “bad” time even for good ideas.

Your work attitude often affects your career altitude.

When you don’t have an opinion, “what do you think?” is a good response. And sometimes even when you do.

People who ask for something ASAP probably want it sooner than you think is possible.

Emails (generally) don’t have to be answered right this minute.

Don’t be afraid to pick up the phone—BEFORE it rings.

If the only time your boss hears from you is when there’s trouble, don’t be surprised if they don’t look forward to your visits.

Book some quiet time in your day.

Most meetings really COULD be replaced with an email.

The world is made up of introverts and extroverts—learn and respect the difference(s).

A picture may be worth a thousand words, but it pays to read the fine print.

Never say you’ll never…

Always sleep on big decisions.

There is an inverse relationship between the number of people in a meeting and its productive output.

Never let your schooling get in the way of your education.

Sometimes the questions are complicated, but the answer isn’t.

And most of all, don’t forget that you’ll want to plan for your future now—because retirement, like graduation, seems a long way off—until it isn’t.

Congratulations to all the graduates out there. We’re proud of you!

- Nevin E. Adams, JD

Things You Don't Learn in School

Life has many lessons to teach us, some more painful than others—and some we’d just as soon be spared. But the graduates of 2021—well, they’ve been through a lot, arguably more than most—but with any luck at all, the days and years ahead will be brighter. 

Regardless, if you have a graduate—or if you are a graduate, here are some insights I’ve picked up along the way…   

ASAP is never as soon as people think.

Even those who work for themselves have bosses (they’re called “clients”).

Emails (generally) don’t have to be answered right this minute.

Bad news doesn’t improve with age.

Your first job can be like your first love—it will either bring a smile for years to come—or it can break your heart. And sometimes both.  

Don’t expect your job to respect personal boundaries without some “help.”

Don’t be afraid to pick up the phone.

If the only time your boss hears from you is when there’s trouble, don’t be surprised if they don’t look forward to your visits. 

Book some quiet time in your day.

Most meetings really could be replaced with an email.

You’re either early—or you’re late.

There is an inverse relationship between the number of people in a meeting and its productive output.

Everything you’ve heard about your elders isn’t true. But some of it is.

Generalizations are (almost) never accurate.

The world is made up of introverts and extroverts—learn and respect the difference(s).

Just because you’re young(er), people are going to assume you know things you don’t—and assume you don’t know things you do.

A picture may be worth a thousand words, but sometimes it pays to read the fine print.

Never say you’ll never…

Always sleep on big decisions.

Never let your schooling stand in the way of your education.

Sometimes the grass on the other side looks greener because of the amount of fertilizer applied.

Never miss an opportunity to say, “thank you.”

If you wouldn’t want your mother to learn about it, don’t…

Comments that begin “with all due respect” generally aren’t.

Sometimes the questions are complicated, but the answer isn’t.

That 401(k) match isn’t really “free” money—but it won’t cost you a thing.

And most of all, don’t forget that you’ll want to plan for your future now—because retirement, like graduation, seems a long way off—until it isn’t.

Congratulations to all the graduates out there. We’re proud of you!

- Nevin E. Adams, JD

p.s.: Got any advice to add to this list? Share it in the comment section below!

The Next Chapter

Life has many lessons to teach us, some more painful than others—and some we’d just as soon be spared. But for the graduates of 2020—well, theirs is surely a unique time. So, if you have a graduate—or if you ARE a graduate, here are some thoughts…   

My kids have passed those milestones—but I have two nieces that will graduate this year without an “official” ceremony to commemorate the occasion, no capstone to those years in pursuit of education, and preparation for the next of life’s stages, and—while social media, cell phones, TikTok and Zoom provide some solace—this is a class that will, for the moment anyway, be denied the hugs and warm embraces of classmates, friends and family alike.

That said, those next steps lie ahead—and if the when, where (and how) remains elusive—the if is surely only a matter of time. And as graduates everywhere look ahead to the next chapter in their lives, it seems a good time to reflect on some lessons learned along the way—most of which apply regardless of the times.

The world is made up of introverts and extroverts—learn and respect the difference(s).

You can “social distance” without being socially distant.

Because you’re young(er), people are going to assume you know things you don’t—and assume you don’t know things you do.

Nothing says a video conference has to include video.

There can be a “bad” time even for good ideas.

Emails can be a blunt instrument for (mis)communication.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. But not necessarily at work.

Paying the minimum due on your credit cards is dumb.

There actually are stupid questions.

A picture may be worth a thousand words, but sometimes it pays to read the fine print.

Never say you’ll never…

“Bad” people almost always get what’s coming to them. Eventually.

Always sleep on big decisions.

When it seems too good to be true, it’s generally neither good, nor true.

Never let your schooling stand in the way of your education.

Sometimes the grass on the other side looks greener because of the amount of fertilizer applied.

Never miss a chance to say, “thank you.”

Hug your parents—often.

If you wouldn’t want your mother to learn about it, don’t do it.

Bad news generally doesn’t age well.

Your work attitude often affects your career altitude.

Comments that begin “with all due respect” generally aren’t.

Sometimes the questions are complicated, but the answer isn’t.

That 401(k) match isn’t really “free” money—but it won’t cost you a thing.

And don’t forget that you’ll want to plan for your future now—because retirement, like graduation, seems a long way off—until it isn’t.

Congratulations to all the graduates out there. We’re proud of you!

- Nevin E. Adams, JD

Got some to add? Feel free to add in the comments.

Life's Lessons

Life has many lessons to teach us, some more painful than others – and some we’d just as soon be spared. But as graduates everywhere look ahead to the next chapter in their lives, it seems a good time to reflect on some of the lessons we’ve learned.

Here are some nuggets I’ve picked up along the way….

1. Be willing to take all the blame – and to share the credit.
2. There actually are stupid questions.
3. Shun those who are cruel – and don’t laugh at their “jokes.”
4. Never say you’ll never.
5. Be on time.
6. “Bad” people eventually get what’s coming to them. But you may not be there to see it.
7. Always sleep on big decisions.
8. Sometimes the grass looks greener because of the amount of fertilizer.
9. Never email in anger – or frustration. And be extra careful when using the “Reply All” button.
10. If your current boss doesn’t want to hear the truth, it may be time to look for a new one.
11. Never pass up a chance to say “thank you.”
12. If you wouldn’t want your mother to learn about it, don’t do it.
13. Never assume that your employer (or your boss) is looking out for your best interests.
14. Bad news doesn’t generally age well.
15. There can be a “bad” time even for good ideas.
16. Your work attitude often affects your career altitude.
17. When you don’t have an opinion, “what do you think?” is a good response. And sometimes even when you do.
18. You can be liked and respected.
19. Comments that begin “with all due respect” generally don’t include much.
20. Sometimes the questions are complicated, but the answer isn’t.

Remember as well that that 401(k) match isn’t really “free” money – but it won’t cost you a thing.
And don’t forget that you’ll want to plan for your future now – because retirement, like graduation, seems a long way off – until it isn’t.

Got some to add? Feel free to add in the comments.

Congratulations to all the graduates out there. We’re proud of you!

- Nevin E. Adams, JD

10 Ways the Class of 2019’s 401(k) Will Be Different

Time marches on, and each generation comes to the workplace with its own unique set of experiences and expectations.

Each August since 1998, Beloit University has published the Beloit College Mindset List, providing a look at the cultural touchstones that shape the lives of students entering college in the fall. For example, the class of 2019, who were for the most part were born in 1997, have never licked a postage stamp, never known a world without Google or Splenda, and have grown up in a world where wi-fi is an entitlement.

Despite those differences, the class of 2019 will one day soon be faced with the same challenges of preparing for retirement as the rest of us. They’ll have to work through how much to save, how to invest those savings, what role (if any) Social Security will play, and — eventually — how and how fast to draw down those savings in retirement — whatever, and whenever, that turns out to be.

Here are 10 things I think we’ll be able to say about most of the Class of 2019 when it enters the workforce:

• They’ve never had to wait to be eligible to start saving in their 401(k) (their parents generally had to wait a year).
• They’ve never had to sign up for their 401(k) plan (their 401(k) automatically enrolls new hires).
  They’ve never had to make an investment choice in their 401(k) plan (their 401(k) has long had a QDIA default option).
• They’ve never had to rebalance their 401(k) account (their 401(k) default option was an asset allocation fund or managed account, automatically rebalanced by professionals).
• They’ve always had fee information available to them on their 401(k) statement (it remains to be seen if they’ll understand it any better than their parents).
• They’ve always known what their 401(k) balance would equal in monthly installment payments.
• They’ve always been able to figure out how much they need to save for a financially secure retirement (though they may not be any more inclined to do so than their parents).
• They’ve always been able to transfer their balances online and on a daily basis (and so, of course, they mostly don’t).
• They’ve always had an advisor available to answer their questions.

And perhaps most importantly, they’ll have the advantage of time, a full career to save and build, to save at better rates, to invest more efficiently and effectively.

- Nevin E. Adams, JD

13 Things About Work You Probably Didn’t Learn in School

This weekend our youngest will graduate from college. It’s a big day for him, of course, and a big deal for us, having for some part of the past eight years had either one, two — and for one interesting year, all three — of our children in college at the same time.

Life has many lessons to teach us, some more painful than others. But as my son — and graduates everywhere — look ahead to the next chapter in their lives, it’s a natural time for the rest of us, particularly those of us who are parents, to reflect on the lessons we’ve learned along the way.

So, for my son — and all the other graduates out there — here are some things I wish I had known when I entered the workforce:

 

1. If you don’t speak up, people will assume you’re happy with the way things are.

 

2. If you wouldn’t want your mother to learn about it, don’t do it.

 

3. Never assume that your employer (or your boss) is looking out for your best interests.

 

4. You can be liked and respected.

 

5. Be very careful when using the “Reply All” button.

 

6. Never miss an opportunity to tell someone “thank you.”

 

7. Be willing to take all the blame — and to share the credit.

 

8. Know at least a little about sports and the weather.

 

9. Never assume that “senior management” knows what they’re doing.

 

10. Watch your language. People notice people who don’t curse.

 

11. Sometimes the questions are complicated, but the answers aren’t.

 

12. That 401(k) match isn’t really “free” money — but it won’t cost you a thing.

 

13. Plan for your future now because retirement, like graduation, seems a long way off — until it isn’t. 

Congratulations to my son — and all the graduates out there. We’re proud of you!

- Nevin E. Adams, JD