The Next Chapter

Life has many lessons to teach us, some more painful than others—and some we’d just as soon be spared. But for the graduates of 2020—well, theirs is surely a unique time. So, if you have a graduate—or if you ARE a graduate, here are some thoughts…   

My kids have passed those milestones—but I have two nieces that will graduate this year without an “official” ceremony to commemorate the occasion, no capstone to those years in pursuit of education, and preparation for the next of life’s stages, and—while social media, cell phones, TikTok and Zoom provide some solace—this is a class that will, for the moment anyway, be denied the hugs and warm embraces of classmates, friends and family alike.

That said, those next steps lie ahead—and if the when, where (and how) remains elusive—the if is surely only a matter of time. And as graduates everywhere look ahead to the next chapter in their lives, it seems a good time to reflect on some lessons learned along the way—most of which apply regardless of the times.

The world is made up of introverts and extroverts—learn and respect the difference(s).

You can “social distance” without being socially distant.

Because you’re young(er), people are going to assume you know things you don’t—and assume you don’t know things you do.

Nothing says a video conference has to include video.

There can be a “bad” time even for good ideas.

Emails can be a blunt instrument for (mis)communication.

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind. But not necessarily at work.

Paying the minimum due on your credit cards is dumb.

There actually are stupid questions.

A picture may be worth a thousand words, but sometimes it pays to read the fine print.

Never say you’ll never…

“Bad” people almost always get what’s coming to them. Eventually.

Always sleep on big decisions.

When it seems too good to be true, it’s generally neither good, nor true.

Never let your schooling stand in the way of your education.

Sometimes the grass on the other side looks greener because of the amount of fertilizer applied.

Never miss a chance to say, “thank you.”

Hug your parents—often.

If you wouldn’t want your mother to learn about it, don’t do it.

Bad news generally doesn’t age well.

Your work attitude often affects your career altitude.

Comments that begin “with all due respect” generally aren’t.

Sometimes the questions are complicated, but the answer isn’t.

That 401(k) match isn’t really “free” money—but it won’t cost you a thing.

And don’t forget that you’ll want to plan for your future now—because retirement, like graduation, seems a long way off—until it isn’t.

Congratulations to all the graduates out there. We’re proud of you!

- Nevin E. Adams, JD

Got some to add? Feel free to add in the comments.

'Lesson' Plans

Life has many lessons to teach us, some more painful than others – and some we’d just as soon be spared. But as graduates everywhere look ahead to the next chapter in their lives, it seems a good time to reflect on some lessons learned along the way.

It’s handy to know at least a little about sports and the weather.

Paying the minimum due on your credit cards is dumb.

Be willing to take all the blame – and to share the credit.

Know that there actually are stupid questions. Try not to be the one asking them.

Shun those who are cruel to others – and don’t laugh at their “jokes” – sooner or later, you’ll be a target.

Never say you’ll never.

“Bad” people eventually get what’s coming to them, though you may not be around to see it.

Always sleep on big decisions.

When it seems too good to be true, it’s generally not good nor true. 

Never let your schooling stand in the way of your education.

Sometimes the grass on the other side looks greener because of the amount of fertilizer applied.

Never email in anger – or frustration. And be extra careful when using the “Reply All” button.

If your current boss doesn’t want to hear the truth, it may be time to look for a new one.

Never miss a chance to say “thank you.”

Hug your parents – often.

If you wouldn’t want your mother to learn about it, don’t do it.

Bad news generally doesn’t age well.

There can be a “bad” time even for good ideas.

Your work attitude often affects your career altitude.

Comments that begin “with all due respect” generally aren’t.

Sometimes the questions are complicated, but the answer isn’t.

Remember as well that that 401(k) match isn’t really “free” money – but it won’t cost you a thing.

And don’t forget that you’ll want to plan for your future now – because retirement, like graduation, seems a long way off – until it isn’t.

Congratulations to all the graduates out there. We’re proud of you!

- Nevin E. Adams, JD
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Life's Lessons

Life has many lessons to teach us, some more painful than others – and some we’d just as soon be spared. But as graduates everywhere look ahead to the next chapter in their lives, it seems a good time to reflect on some of the lessons we’ve learned.

Here are some nuggets I’ve picked up along the way….

1. Be willing to take all the blame – and to share the credit.
2. There actually are stupid questions.
3. Shun those who are cruel – and don’t laugh at their “jokes.”
4. Never say you’ll never.
5. Be on time.
6. “Bad” people eventually get what’s coming to them. But you may not be there to see it.
7. Always sleep on big decisions.
8. Sometimes the grass looks greener because of the amount of fertilizer.
9. Never email in anger – or frustration. And be extra careful when using the “Reply All” button.
10. If your current boss doesn’t want to hear the truth, it may be time to look for a new one.
11. Never pass up a chance to say “thank you.”
12. If you wouldn’t want your mother to learn about it, don’t do it.
13. Never assume that your employer (or your boss) is looking out for your best interests.
14. Bad news doesn’t generally age well.
15. There can be a “bad” time even for good ideas.
16. Your work attitude often affects your career altitude.
17. When you don’t have an opinion, “what do you think?” is a good response. And sometimes even when you do.
18. You can be liked and respected.
19. Comments that begin “with all due respect” generally don’t include much.
20. Sometimes the questions are complicated, but the answer isn’t.

Remember as well that that 401(k) match isn’t really “free” money – but it won’t cost you a thing.
And don’t forget that you’ll want to plan for your future now – because retirement, like graduation, seems a long way off – until it isn’t.

Got some to add? Feel free to add in the comments.

Congratulations to all the graduates out there. We’re proud of you!

- Nevin E. Adams, JD